My Friend Terry


I have many television critic friends that I see twice a year. When we get together, it’s like we’ve never been apart. Then there are the television critic friends that I keep in touch with all year long. My friend Terry Morrow was one of those.

If I had to tell you one word to describe Terry, it would be JOY. And yes, I mean in all caps. He had an acerbic wit that still makes me smile, and he just went after life with everything he had.

I cannot tell you how many times he stood by me when things were tough. And how he made me laugh. Not long after I met him, Terry hunted me down at one of my first book signings in Atlanta. It was for the Joss Whedon book, and it was my first con, Dragon Con. I was a bit overwhelmed. I hadn’t expected 30,000 people, or the costumes and role playing.  But Terry explained it all in a way that helped me understand. This was a place where we could all fly our nerdy, freak flags as high as we wanted.

Terry didn’t care what people thought about him. He loved making a spectacle. If you’ve read my book Like A Charm. Terry was the inspiration for my Jackie O’ drag queen, who happens to be a spiritual guide. Terry wasn’t a drag queen, but he liked to live a big life. He loved his job interviewing celebs, and his love and passion for it showed in his work.

I love, love love him and I always will. And even though I knew that this day would come sooner than any of us wanted, it’s breaking my heart. But Terry would sit by me, pat my hand and tell me to put my big girl panties on. Then he’d point to this blog and say, “Really. That’s the best you can do? I’m way more awesome than that.”

I will miss my friend.

No one did silly like Terry. This is how I will remember him. Life is short, have fun.

No one did silly like Terry. This is how I will remember him. Life is short, have fun.


About Candace Havens

Bestselling author Candace Havens has written six novels for Berkley including, Charmed & Dangerous, Charmed & Ready, Charmed & Deadly, Like A Charm, The Demon King and I and Dragons Prefer Blondes. Her new venture is writing for the Blaze line of Harlequin. Those books include Take Me If You Dare, She Who Dares, Wins, Truth and Dare, and The Model Marine. She is also in the anthology Spirited, and the proceeds go to help literacy. Her books have received nominations for the RITA's, Holt Medallion and Write Touch Reader Awards. She is the author of the biography Joss Whedon: The Genius Behind Buffy and a contributor to several anthologies. She is also one of the nation's leading entertainment journalists and has interviewed countless celebrities including Tom Hanks, Nicolas Cage, Tom Cruise, George Clooney and many more. Her entertainment columns can be read in more than 600 newspapers across the country. Candace also runs a free online writing workshop for more than 1800 writers, and teaches comprehensive writing class. She does film reviews with the Dorsey Gang on New Country 96.3, and is the President of the Television Critics Association.

2 responses »

  1. Candy-
    Huge hugs for the loss of your friend. He sounds like he lived his life to the fullest. A good lesson to us all.
    Thank you for sharing with us.

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